Blogpost #4: What makes a relationship last?

          A lot of relationships end for a variety of reasons. Here is something from an article entitled ”Top 5 reasons relationship ends” written by Jessica Padykula in She Knows. In this site, it includes: incompatibility, cheating, growing apart, faded chemistry, and different paths. Some relationships end badly, while others are ended with a mutual decision. Relationships of people my age don’t really last for a long time, maybe because they’re just for the sake of having fun or going with the flow of this generation. At first, their relationships seemed okay but through the process, their love for each other fades. I think one reason why this happens is because of college life. Some couples go to different colleges, thus giving them a hard time to see each other or even communicate when school works get in the way. They say that communication is important, and I think couples should make time to see each other because being away from the one you love can lessen the feelings.

          But what are the specific aspects that affect a relationship and cause its end? Let’s expand on what I have stated earlier:

Incompatibility. This happens when your beliefs and values contradict each other. Sometimes these cause fights because the couple individually has a strong belief in a certain idea or thing. They say that opposites attract, however, it’s not always the case because sometimes these differences take them away from each other.

Cheating. People tend to cheat when they are not content and happy with the person they are with. Other couples get through the challenge of infidelity while others don’t. But I think once a person has cheated, giving him/her a second chance should not be easy because when trust is broken, it is one of the hardest things to fix and may require a long time to be restored.

Growing Apart & Faded Chemistry. Sometimes we just feel like the person we once loved just turned into a stranger. It’s when the butterflies aren’t there anymore and you just simply lose interest in talking or seeing him/her. I think it’s because the love felt in the first place isn’t true, and that’s how most cases are.

Different Paths. It is inevitable for a couple to have different individual plans. One may think of a future that would benefit them both, but the other might not see their future like that. Long term goals may be harder to fix for the both of them than short term goals.

          Making a relationship last is not an easy task. Both parties should take part in order for their relationship to work. In the article “How to make a Relationship Last” Edited by TJ Pranger, KnowItSome, Flickety, Sondra C and 23 others in Wiki How, making time for each other, being honest with each other and giving up should not be a choice are requirements for a relationship to really last.

Being honest with each other. Being honest is an important aspect that every couple must have. Without this, it is impossible to bind the hearts of a couple, and it is also the foundation in which a relationship lasts. That’s why trust must be taken care of because it is something that can’t be easily fixed when broken.

Giving up should not be a choice. Nothing can be achieved if we give up, so the couple must have the perseverance to fix problems and keep the relationship going, no matter how hard the trials may be. It is never an option to give up, as long as there are still ways to mend broken ends.

Making time for each other. Time is an essential element in a relationship because by giving time to the person we love, we can show him/her that he/she is important to us and is worth our time. We can show this by talking to them, or making time to see them, just for them to know that we want to be with them.

        There are still a lot of ways to make a relationship last. But for me, those are the most important things to consider when you're in a relationship. Also, don't forget even if you play every trick in the book of romance, if your partner is unwilling to commit, the relationship will not work out. You should both have trust in each other despite the challenges and problems that arise. And lastly, both of you should be willing to make an effort.